Author: Harold Ivan Smith

Publisher: Augsburg Books

ISBN: 9780806643472

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 147

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A thoughtful guide to getting through the loss of a mother.
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Author: Catherine Whitney,Lois F. Akner

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: N.A

Category: Self-Help

Page: N.A

View: 881

We expect our parents to die before we do. Most of us agree that this is the “natural” order of things. Because of this assumption, people are often shocked by how deeply sad and even traumatized they feel when they lose a parent. They wonder why it takes so long to recover—how even months or years later the thought of Mom or Dad can cause them to burst into tears. This phenomenon happens for those who were close to their parents, those who were estranged, and those whose relationships were complicated. With the parent’s death, they feel a fundamental crack in their existence because this person, the one who knew them before they were born, is now gone. I have spent much of my professional life counseling people grieving the loss of a parent. Through their stories I have learned that there is no single defining experience of grief, no rules for how it should be expressed or how long it should last. But in grieving the loss of our parents, each in our own ways, we journey those well tread roads and learn more about ourselves in the process. How to Survive the Loss of a Parent offers no high-minded rules for grieving. It is just a conversation and a sharing of the experiences of others that I hope will bring people solace and insight. Knowing we are not alone is one of the best ways to heal.
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Author: Harold Ivan Smith

Publisher: Augsburg Books

ISBN: 9781451409499

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 140

View: 4984

Smith has combined personal stories from Frederick Buechner, Norman Vincent Peale, Corrie ten Boom, James Dobson, and many other well-known people to help others through their grieving process in dealing with the new reality of a deceased father.
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A Daughter's Guide to Grief, Loss and Reclaiming Life

Author: Leigh Van Der Horst

Publisher: Black Inc.

ISBN: 1863958363

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 320

View: 1059

When Leigh Van Der Horst lost her beloved mother to cancer in 2008, she faced her biggest battle yet. In Without My Mum, she invites us on a journey that is at times heartbreaking, others heartwarming, but ultimately comforting and inspiring. With warmth and candour, Leigh tells of her transformative passage through devastating grief, one that allowed her to rediscover and redefine her own identity. As well as exploring her own experience, Van Der Horst brings together stories from many inspiring women around the world, including contributions from Jools Oliver, Lisa Wilkinson, Megan Gale, Amanda de Cadenet and Natalie ‘A wonderful book that captured my heart in the first few paragraphs. Leigh’s candid, humorous and heartfelt narrative, together with a collection of stories and wisdom from others who have walked a similar path, are authentic, uniting and ultimately inspiring. It’s a laugh-out-loud, sob-a-little-uncontrollably kind of book that will resonate with any parent or carer. I adored it!’ —Jools Oliver ‘I can’t sing the praises of this gorgeous mum enough. For those who have lost their mum and are forging ahead as a mum on your own, this is truly a must have book.’ —Natalie Bassingthwaighte
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A Memoir

Author: Meghan O'Rourke

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 9781101486559

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 320

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From one of America's foremost young literary voices, a transcendent portrait of the unbearable anguish of grief and the enduring power of familial love. What does it mean to mourn today, in a culture that has largely set aside rituals that acknowledge grief? After her mother died of cancer at the age of fifty-five, Meghan O'Rourke found that nothing had prepared her for the intensity of her sorrow. In the first anguished days, she began to create a record of her interior life as a mourner, trying to capture the paradox of grief-its monumental agony and microscopic intimacies-an endeavor that ultimately bloomed into a profound look at how caring for her mother during her illness changed and strengthened their bond. O'Rourke's story is one of a life gone off the rails, of how watching her mother's illness-and separating from her husband-left her fundamentally altered. But it is also one of resilience, as she observes her family persevere even in the face of immeasurable loss. With lyricism and unswerving candor, The Long Goodbye conveys the fleeting moments of joy that make up a life, and the way memory can lead us out of the jagged darkness of loss. Effortlessly blending research and reflection, the personal and the universal, it is not only an exceptional memoir, but a necessary one.
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Living After Losing a Child

Author: Ellen Mitchell

Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin

ISBN: 1429933550

Category: Self-Help

Page: 208

View: 8191

Meant to comfort and give direction to bereaved parents, Beyond Tears is written by nine mothers who have each lost a child. This revised edition includes a new chapter written from the perspective of surviving siblings. The death of a child is that unimaginable loss no parent ever expects to face. In Beyond Tears, nine mothers share their individual stories of how to survive in the darkest hour. They candidly share with other bereaved parents what to expect in the first year and long beyond: *Harmonious relationships can become strained *There is a new definition of what one considers "normal" *The question "how many children do you have?" can be devastating *Mothers and fathers mourn and cope differently *Surviving siblings grieve and suffer as well *There simply is no answer to the question "why?" This sharing in itself is a catharsis and because each of these mothers lost her child at least seven years ago, she is in a unique position to provide perspective on what newly bereaved parents can expect to feel. The mothers of Beyond Tears offer reassurance that the clouds of grief do lessen with time and that grieving parents will find a way to live, and even laugh again.
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A Memoir about Death, Grief, and Surviving the Mother of All Losses

Author: Kate Spencer

Publisher: Seal Press

ISBN: 1580056881

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 288

View: 8347

Kate Spencer lost her mom to cancer when she was 27. In The Dead Moms Club, she walks readers through her experience of stumbling through grief and loss, and helps them to get through it, too. This isn't a weepy, sentimental story, but rather a frank, up-front look at what it means to go through gruesome grief and come out on the other side. An empathetic read, The Dead Moms Club covers how losing her mother changed nearly everything in her life: both men and women readers who have lost parents or experienced grief of this magnitude will be comforted and consoled. Spencer even concludes each chapter with a cheeky but useful tip for readers (like the "It's None of Your Business Card" to copy and hand out to nosy strangers asking about your passed loved one).
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A Mother's Journey through the Death of a child

Author: Sherry Anne Coombe

Publisher: Xlibris Corporation

ISBN: 1493191020

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 448

View: 5228

I did not cry. The moment came when Heather died; I did not shed a tear. I felt numb, like I was having an out of body experience, and I was watching myself go through the motions. There were things to do; people to call, it was not the time to begin to fall apart. I had just joined an elite club of grieving mothers. This was the club no one talked about or wanted to become a member of. From that moment on my life was getting a makeover that I didn’t ask for let alone consent to allowing it to happen. It was beyond my control; I was not given a choice. This was and is my life now. I am a grieving mother for the rest of my life.
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Grieving the Death of a Child

Author: David W. Wiersbe

Publisher: Baker Books

ISBN: 1441214615

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 128

View: 8513

We all expect our parents to precede us in death. No one expects to have to make their child's funeral arrangements. And the loss of a child brings with it a special and persistent manifestation of grief that can feel "like a stomachache that never ends." Gone but Not Lost is a thoughtful gift for a family that has experienced the death of a child. Each of its brief chapters covers one element of grieving, bringing readers through sorrow and helping them deal with feelings of anger or guilt, as well as the marital strain that may follow the loss of a beloved child.
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The Legacy of Loss, 20th Anniversary Edition

Author: Hope Edelman

Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

ISBN: 0738217743

Category: Self-Help

Page: 400

View: 8924

Ask any woman whose mother has died, and she will tell you that she is irrevocably altered, as deeply changed by her mother's death as she was by her mother's life. Although a mother's mortality is inevitable, no book had discussed the profound, lasting, and far-reaching effects of this loss--until Motherless Daughters, which became an instant classic. Twenty years later, it is still the book that women of all ages look to for comfort and understanding when their mothers die, and the book that they continue to press into each other's hands. Building on interviews with hundreds of mother-loss survivors, the author's personal story of losing her mother, recent research in grief and psychology, and with a new afterword exploring how the legacy of mother loss shifts with the passage of time, Motherless Daughters reveals the shared experiences and core identity issues of motherless women: Why the absence of a nurturing hand shapes a woman's identity throughout her lifespan How present-day relationships are defined by past losses How a woman can resolve past conflicts and move toward acceptance and healing What grief really is: not a linear passage, but an ongoing cyclical journey
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Healing Exercises for Daughters

Author: Diane Hambrook

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0060952229

Category: Psychology

Page: 352

View: 6559

To tell you how to use this workbook would be like giving you instructions on how to grieve. Impossible. The only thing we know for sure is that no two people will approach this work in the same way. If there's one thing you should remember as you begin this process, it is this: You are not alone. With that knowledge, you've already begun to heal. --from A Mother Loss Workbook Inspired by Hope Edelman's bestselling Motherless Daughters, authors Diane Hambrook and Gail Eisenberg have created a sensitive,m accessible workbook for women suffering the wounds of early mother loss. A Mother Loss Workbook is designed to help the ,motherless daughter tell the story she needs to tell--her story. Its varied exercises, open-ended questions, writing topics, and activities, drawn from Hambrook's years of work with motherless daughters, provide both careful direction and generous room for self-expression. This book is a safe place where no one will judge a woman, where the work she must do can be done in her own time, at her own pace, and at any stage of mourning. A Mother Loss Workbook is an ideal supplement for personal therapy and support groups, but it is an important--and perhaps the only--tool for women just starting their journey or who are hesitant to go public with their feelings. Whether a woman uses it privately or shares it with a group, no matter how long its been since her mother died, A Mother Loss Workbook will guide her toward fully understanding her loss and taking charge of her future.
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Rebuilding Your Family After the Death of a Loved One

Author: Phyllis R. Silverman,Madelyn Kelly

Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA

ISBN: 0195328841

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

View: 7884

When children lose someone they love, life is never the same. In this sympathetic book, the authors advocate an open, honest approach, suggesting that our instinctive desire to "protect" children from the reality of death may be more harmful than helpful.
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A Devotional of Hope

Author: Kathe Wunnenberg

Publisher: Zondervan

ISBN: 0310862345

Category: Religion

Page: 240

View: 9126

Death is an inevitable and constant part of life, yet those who grieve often feel misunderstood and alone in their journey, says Kathe Wunnenberg, author of Grieving the Loss of a Loved One. This compassionate book acts as a daily devotional companion to hurting people. Designed for adult readers of all ages and stages in the grieving process, it is sensitively written by an author who suffered three miscarriages and the death of an infant son. She knows from firsthand experience that there are no easy answers for those who mourn. Sixty devotions cover the many stages of grieving, including readings for holidays, birthdays, and special occasions, when grief can be particularly painful. Readers will walk away from the short thematic devotions and feel validated, connected to someone who knows how they truly feel, and with renewed hope in God. Friends and family members who sincerely want to help the grieving can give this book as a meaningful, beneficial expression of their love and concern.
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Transition to a New Adult Identity

Author: Debra Umberson

Publisher: Cambridge University Press

ISBN: 9781139440028

Category: Psychology

Page: N.A

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When a parent dies, most adults are seized by an unexpected crisis that can trigger a profound transformation. Using in-depth interviews and national surveys, Dr Umberson explains why the death of a parent has strong effects on adults and looks at protective factors that help some individuals experience better mental health following the death than they did when the parent was alive. This is the first book to rely on sound scientific method to document the significant adverse effects of parental death for adults in a national population. Exploring the social and psychological risk factors that make some people more vulnerable than others, readers will come to view the loss of a parent in a new way: as a turning point in adult development.
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A Guide for Adults

Author: Edward Myers

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1101651555

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

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The topics range from the psychological responses to a parent's death such as shock, depression, and guilt, to the practical consequences such as dealing with estates and funerals.
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A Guide for Men Surviving the Death of a Loved One : a Resource for Caregivers and Mental Health Professionals

Author: Carol Staudacher

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated

ISBN: 9780934986724

Category: Bereavement

Page: 225

View: 3182

Explores men's reactions to the death of a loved one, and offers suggestions for enhancing the healing process
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A Memoir

Author: Tanja Pajevic

Publisher: Abbondanza Press

ISBN: 9780986303135

Category:

Page: 230

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When Tanja Pajevic?s mother died, she felt alone and unsupported. She didn?t want her grief to sideline her, as it had when her father died. This time around, she wanted to grieve consciously. But how? In a society that no longer has clear rituals or traditions around grief, Tanja set out to create her own. As the weeks and months passed, she delved into her anger, rage and sorrow, as well as explored the complicated issue of forgiveness. Along the way, she explored the rise and fall of communal mourning in the United States, as well as its roots in the current medical model. Tanja also examined ingrained family patterns she was ready to release?all while raising two young children and dealing with a husband facing his own challenges. Throughout, she reassessed and reconfigured her life, reconnected with her true self and found redemption and healing, as well as joy. Written in fierce, honest prose, The Secret Life of Grief is a book for anyone who isn?t willing to ?pull it together? and act like nothing?s wrong. The Secret Life of Grief is a book for those of us who believe in the transformative power of loss. And it?s a book for those of us who believe in love.
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Teens Talk about Life After the Loss of a Parent

Author: Lynne B. Hughes

Publisher: Scholastic Paperbacks

ISBN: 9780439585910

Category: Juvenile Nonfiction

Page: 192

View: 8063

Offers teenagers an informative discussion on the pain of losing one's parent, providing techniques and guidance for learning to deal with the loss through the various stages of one's young life.
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Daily Meditations

Author: Lorene Hanley Duquin

Publisher: Our Sunday Visitor

ISBN: 168192157X

Category: Religion

Page: 112

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"Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape." C.S. Lewis Lorene Duquin, an experienced grief counselor was no stranger to understanding and explaining grief, and had helped many people work through it. But when she lost her mother she found herself living in an entirely new space. Grieving the Loss of a Loved One contains 52 powerful, one-page meditations that will help you work through the various aspects of grieving as they did for Lorene herself. The meditations are wide-ranging: they are deeply personal, but yet they address the emotional, physical, mental, spiritual, and social aspects of grief. Rooted in prayer, inspired by the Holy Spirit, and conveying important life lessons, each meditation features: A quote from a well-known figure that speaks to the meditation A brief reflection that expands upon the topic at hand A prayer Sidebar with a timely quote or anecdote Walk hand in hand with Lorene and experience the gift of a companion who can walk this painful walk at your side, through this unknown territory, where each passing day seems to reveal a new dimension of pain, loss, confusion but eventually transforms to healing and peace.
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Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

Author: Rebecca Soffer,Gabrielle Birkner

Publisher: HarperCollins

ISBN: 006249922X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 384

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Inspired by the website that the New York Times hailed as "redefining mourning," this book is a fresh and irreverent examination into navigating grief and resilience in the age of social media, offering comfort and community for coping with the mess of loss through candid original essays from a variety of voices, accompanied by gorgeous two-color illustrations and wry infographics. At a time when we mourn public figures and national tragedies with hashtags, where intimate posts about loss go viral and we receive automated birthday reminders for dead friends, it’s clear we are navigating new terrain without a road map. Let’s face it: most of us have always had a difficult time talking about death and sharing our grief. We’re awkward and uncertain; we avoid, ignore, or even deny feelings of sadness; we offer platitudes; we send sympathy bouquets whittled out of fruit. Enter Rebecca Soffer and Gabrielle Birkner, who can help us do better. Each having lost parents as young adults, they co-founded Modern Loss, responding to a need to change the dialogue around the messy experience of grief. Now, in this wise and often funny book, they offer the insights of the Modern Loss community to help us cry, laugh, grieve, identify, and—above all—empathize. Soffer and Birkner, along with forty guest contributors including Lucy Kalanithi, singer Amanda Palmer, and CNN’s Brian Stelter, reveal their own stories on a wide range of topics including triggers, sex, secrets, and inheritance. Accompanied by beautiful hand-drawn illustrations and witty "how to" cartoons, each contribution provides a unique perspective on loss as well as a remarkable life-affirming message. Brutally honest and inspiring, Modern Loss invites us to talk intimately and humorously about grief, helping us confront the humanity (and mortality) we all share. Beginners welcome.
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